親愛的朋友們，我們非常非常地愛你們：
你們大家都渴望在生命中感受到一種「連結感」。對你們有些人來說，這表現為渴望與「神聖源頭（the Divine）」連結——無論你所理解的形式是什麼；其他人則希望感受到與動物或大自然的連結；而大部分的人，都渴望與其他人類擁有和諧且帶來提升的連結。然而，在所有這些願望的背後，你們所有人最渴望的，其實是與內在自我擁有和諧的連結——一種與活在你內在、並在你之中呼吸的神聖火花（Divine Spark）維持對齊與校準的關係。你希望與內在的愛與光連結，你希望感受到那份對齊，你希望感受到自己展現出最好、最具愛心的那個版本。
你是否曾觀察過某些人，他們似乎能以優雅與外交手腕去處理所有的關係，甚至是那些令人不悅的關係？他們可以在這個當下展現慈悲，在下個當下展現堅定；但在任何情況下，他們都維持著自己的尊嚴、優雅與內在中心。他們懂得如何傾聽，並能以一種真正能與人們產生連結的方式進行溝通。你欽佩這樣的靈魂，你知道這樣的互動是可能的，你也希望自己能如此扎根、並安住於自己最好的狀態之中。
然後，你會問：「為什麼我會允許別人打擾我？為什麼我在其他人身邊會感到緊張、沮喪或害怕？為什麼我會捲入爭執？為什麼要找到優雅、尊嚴甚至是合適的話語，去以一種不貶低自己的方式處理具挑戰性的關係，會顯得如此困難？」
從我們的視角來看，這份優雅才是你真實的模樣。在你的本質中，你是一個深具愛心與感受力的存在，渴望去愛並被愛。一個優雅的靈魂與一個感到被他人傷害/被害者心態的靈魂之間，唯一的區別在於：優雅的靈魂掌控了自己的實相、內在狀態、互動方式以及展示自己的形態。 他們決定何時、如何以及是否進行互動；無論他人正在做什麼，他們都選擇維持愛與慈悲。
一個感到沮喪的靈魂，是將自己的情緒「外包」給了他人，任由他人的言行來決定自己的心情；而一個優雅的靈魂，則決定了自己的感受獨立於他人的言語與情緒之外。你們大多數人整天都在這兩者之間搖擺不定，在許多情況下能夠維持自己的內在中心，而在其他情況下則失去它。
我們理解，被他人缺乏愛的行為「觸發/踩線（triggered）」是非常容易的。沒有人希望生活中出現控制慾強、操縱人心、好辯或負面的人；你更希望身處於那些能對自己情緒負責、允許你做你自己、並希望大家都能得到最好結果的人身邊。而你們所有人，都配得擁有這種型態的關係。
儘管如此，在你的生命歷程中，你必然會遇到其他類型的角色。你會在工作場所、出門辦事時，甚至往往在自己的家庭中遇到他們。他們是你的挑戰，也是你的老師；而有時候，你自己也曾是他人眼中那個棘手的角色。那麼，在面對這些棘手的人時，你該如何維持在愛的內在中心呢？
你要從提醒自己「無論其他人說什麼、想什麼或做什麼，你都可以做真實的自己」開始！
當你身處於那些試圖告訴你「你應該如何思考或行動」的人身邊時，你可以賦予他們以及你自己「允許意見不合」的權利。你可以透過說一些既慈悲又真實的話來化解對話：「我想我們都必須找到屬於自己的道路，我很高興你找到了一條適合你的道路。」 你必須是出自真心，因為能量傳達出的聲音遠比語言更響亮。一個真誠、穩重且平靜的宣言可以化解一個霸道的人；往好處想，他們會學到一些東西；往壞處想，他們會認為你雖然善意，但有點不好對付！
當你發現很難與某人建立連結時——也許是因為他們沒有在聽、他們缺乏安全感，或者他們有不同的目的——你可以先賦予他們理解，好讓他們冷靜下來，並願意來理解你。你不需要起防禦心，一個自信且平靜的人沒有什麼需要去證明的，他們知道自己是誰。
你可以深呼吸，試著去理解所有的視角；並基於那份理解，以新的方式溝通。例如，假設你說：「我星期六需要去一趟超市。」 你的配偶、父母或孩子回答：「你永遠都沒有時間陪我！」
深呼吸。「我很抱歉，我聽到了。如果能有更多時間一起享受時光確實很棒；但有很多事情需要處理，我們也需要買日用品。你希望我週六去買，還是你想提前去拿，這樣我們就可以待在一起？或者我們可以多花一點點錢讓他們在週五晚上送達，這樣我們就可以在週六一起度過？你覺得呢？」
就像你在面對一個受傷的孩子一樣——而在這些情況下，你往往就是在面對一個受傷的孩子——你傾聽、承認，然後提供選擇。
在你能力所及時，對自己好一點，多花時間與那些能產生共鳴、讓你感到愉悅的人相處。但是當你必須身處於一個棘手的角色身邊時，請記住這個簡單的真理：每個人都渴望感受到被看見、被聽見、被愛與被承認。 當你賦予那些棘手的靈魂這份「被看見、被聽見、被愛與被承認」的禮物時，大多數人都會平靜下來，並將他們更友善的版本帶到表面。
你必須在那些表現得像害怕或不爽的孩子的人之中，扮演那個大人嗎？不，親愛的孩子們，這裡沒有「應該」。但如果你想要和平與和諧，無論他人展現出什麼，你都可以在內在找到它。你可以將自己的內在中心帶入每一次的互動中；你可以透過「理解所有人（無論表現好壞）都在尋求愛」的鏡頭去傾聽；你可以成為你自己本是的優雅、愛與慈悲，從而轉化你的許多互動。而當你無法帶來正向影響時，你也可以克制自己，不讓他們的失禮侵蝕你對自我價值的認知。
這世上總會有那些令人愉快、相處起來非常美好的靈魂；也總會有那些需要花費一些心思相處的棘手靈魂。但當你完善了自己與自己的關係，你會發現與所有存在互動都會變得容易許多。 棘手的人會突然看起來像他們真實的模樣——那些害怕或挫折的存在；而當你見證了他們內在的孩子時，慈悲就會在你心中湧現。無論你選擇是否與之互動，你都可以與內在的愛互動，而那個實相中，和諧將自然而然地達成。
願神祝福你們！我們非常非常地愛你們。
—— 天使集體（The Angels）
Message from the Angels: You get to be You
Channel: Ann Albers | Source
My dear friends, we love you so very much,
You all want to feel a sense of connection in life. For some of you, this manifests as a desire for connection with the Divine, in whatever form you understand it to be. Others want to feel a connection with animals or nature. Most of you want harmonious and uplifting connections with other human beings. But underneath all of these wishes, what you all want the most is a harmonious connection with your inner self—an aligned relationship with the Divine Spark that lives and breathes within you. You want to be connected with the love and light within. You want to feel that alignment. You want to feel like the best and most loving version of yourself.
Have you ever watched someone who seems to handle all relationships, even unpleasant ones, with grace and diplomacy? They can be kind one moment, firm the next, but in all cases, they maintain their dignity, their grace, and their center. They know how to listen, and they communicate in ways that genuinely seem to connect with people. You admire such souls. You know these types of interactions are possible. You want to be as rooted and centered in your best self.
Then, you ask, “Why do I allow others to bother me? Why do I get tense, upset, or afraid around others? Why do I get sucked into disagreements? Why does it seem so difficult to find the grace, dignity, and even the words to manage challenging relationships in a way that doesn’t diminish me?”
From our vantage point, this graciousness is who you really are. In your essence, you are a deeply loving and feeling being who wants to love and be loved. The only difference between a gracious soul and one who feels victimized by others is that the gracious one takes charge of their own reality, their inner condition, their interactions, and how they present themselves. They decide when, how, and if they interact. They choose to be loving and kind regardless of what others are doing.
A frustrated soul outsources their emotions, allowing them to be dictated by the words and behaviors of others. A gracious soul decides how they will feel independent of the words and emotions of others. Most of you vacillate between the two throughout your days, able to maintain your center in many cases while losing it in others.
We understand that it is easy to “get triggered” by the unloving behavior of others. No one wants a controlling, manipulative, argumentative, or negative individual in their lives. You’d much prefer to be around people who are responsible for their own moods, allow you to be you, and want the best for all. And you all deserve these types of relationships.
Nonetheless, you are bound to run across other characters throughout your life. You’ll find them at work, while you’re out running errands, and often in your own family. They are your challenges and your teachers. And sometimes, you’ve been that difficult character for others. So how do you stay in your loving center in the presence of difficult people?
You start by reminding yourself that you get to be you, no matter what others say, think, or do!
When you are around someone who tells you how you should think or act, you can grant both them and yourself the right to disagree. You can diffuse a conversation by saying something both kind and true: “I think we all have to find our own way. I’m glad you’ve found a path that works for you.” You have to mean it. Energy speaks louder than words. A sincere, centered, and calm statement can diffuse a bully. At best, they’ll learn a little. At worst, they’ll decide you’re well-meaning but difficult!
When you have a hard time connecting with someone, perhaps because they aren’t listening, they’re insecure, or they have a different agenda, you can grant them understanding first so they will calm down and be willing to understand you. You don’t have to get defensive. A person who is confident and calm has nothing to prove. They know who they are.
You can take a breath, seek to understand all perspectives, and, from that understanding, communicate in new ways. For example, suppose you say, “I need to go to the store on Saturday.” Your spouse, parent, or child answers, “You never have time for me!”
Take a breath. “I’m so sorry. I hear you. It would be nice to have more time to enjoy together. But there is a lot to handle, and we need groceries. Would you prefer I get them on Saturday, or would you like to pick them up earlier so we can spend time together? Or we could spend a little extra and get them delivered Friday night so we can spend time together on Saturday. What do you think?”
As if you are dealing with a hurt child—and frequently, in these cases, you are—you listen, acknowledge, and then offer options.
When you are able, be kind to yourself and spend time in the company of those you resonate with and enjoy. But when you must be around a difficult character, remember this simple truth: Everyone wants to feel seen, heard, loved, and acknowledged. And as you grant difficult souls the gift of being seen, heard, loved, and acknowledged, most will settle down and bring a kinder version of themselves to the surface.
Should you have to be the adult among those who act like scared or upset children? No, dear ones. There are no “shoulds.” But if you want peace and harmony, you can find it within, no matter what others present to you. You can bring your own centeredness into every interaction. You can listen through the lens of understanding that all—no matter how well- or ill-behaved—are seeking love. You can be the grace, the love, and the kindness that you are and thus transform many of your interactions. And when you can’t influence someone for the better, you can refrain from letting their unkindness infiltrate your own sense of self.
There will always be lovely souls who are a pleasure to be around. There will always be difficult ones who take some work to be around. But as you perfect the relationship you have with yourself, you will find it much easier to interact with all beings. Difficult people will suddenly seem like the scared or frustrated beings they truly are. And as you witness the child within them, compassion will stir in your heart. Whether or not you choose to engage, you can engage with the love within, and in that reality, harmony is naturally achieved.
God Bless You! We love you so very much.
— The Angels
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