我們親愛的朋友，我們非常非常地愛著你們。
上週，我們談到了要更清楚地意識到自己是如何投資能量的，這樣你就能開始明白為什麼會獲得特定的「回報」。今天，我們將繼續使用這個比喻，將它應用於如何處理那些似乎阻礙你獲得理想體驗的人。
假設你想把錢投資在一家生產你喜愛產品的公司。你進行了投資，也享受了回報。但有一天，你發現這家公司的管理層換人了。你不認同新管理層，也不喜歡新的發展方向。如果你覺得這筆投資仍然值得，你可以繼續投資於這個不再與你產生共鳴的事物；或者，你可以撤回資金，轉而投資於更適合你的目標。
同樣地，你將自己的時間、注意力與能量投資於生活中的各種關係裡。其中有些關係值得你付出任何能量去投資。你可能非常愛你那令人沮喪的配偶、家人或孩子，以至於你願意改變自己的想法、行動和能量，從而更明智地投資於他們！你可能會決定停止聚焦於他們的缺點，嘗試將焦點投資於他們的優點上。你可能會投資於一種更幽默的振動頻率；你可能會投資於「看見他們快樂與滿足」的想法，並伴隨著「自己不必去掌控其人生道路」的心態。無論如何，當一段關係舉足輕重時，你可以思考自己是如何在其中投資能量的，以及你所投資的能量是否就是你想感受到的體驗——而這，本身就可以是一種「回報」。
你們從自己體驗過的感受中都知道，當面對別人的關切或不認同，你們非常不喜歡那些能量，並且會想方設法避開！同樣地，如果你對所愛之人表現出「不認同、擔憂或關切」的能量投資，他們可能也會想要避開你。然而，如果有人相信你、支持你，讓你感受到了對你優點的認可，你通常會想待在他們身邊，並盡力展現自己最好的一面。你會對他們給予你的正面能量投資回饋以更好的「回報」。同樣地，你所愛的人通常也會對你給予他們的正面能量投資回饋以更好的回報。
舉例來說，假設你上有一個不知道自己人生該何去何從的成年孩子。你可以投資於「擔憂、激進的建議以及不認同的最後通牒」，而這些能量投資在關係中的回報，通常是關閉的心門與閉塞的心智——往往還伴隨著自尊心與個人力量的削弱。你的出發點是好的，你愛你的孩子，但這些負面的能量投資無法為你們任何一方帶來想要的回報。
更好的做法是將焦點放在這個孩子的優點上。你愛他們，他們友善、足智多謀、有天賦；而且正如你已經猜到的，當他們找到內在的指南針並確定方向時，他們自然會沒事的。相信他們，並為他們獻上祝福：「我了解你。當你找到自己熱愛的事物時，即使那不合常規，你也會取得巨大的成功。做你自己吧，你一定會摸索出來的！」這種正向的投資將幫助他們以不同的視角看待自己，並帶來更好的「回報」。
又或者，假設你相信他們，但不再希望他們住在留在家裡。一個正向的投資可能是：「我很愛你，也無比相信你，所以我們打算幫你在這個日期前搬出去。第一個月份我會幫你在新住處安置好，接著我知道你一定能獨立照料自己。除非你有更好的時間安排，否則我們下週末就去看房子。」這不是最後通牒，而是你帶著愛、正向期待以及對這個靈魂應對生活能力的信心所設定的界線。這是一筆正向的投資，比起任由他們留在家裡、同時心中不斷醞釀沮喪與怨恨，這種做法將會帶來好得多的回報。
你對一個人越有信心，你在支持他們擁有美好未來上的投資效果就越好。
那麼，面對難相處的人，你該怎麼做呢？在你的生活中，可能有些人你並不真的在乎是否要維持關係。在這種情況下，撤回你的能量，去投資於更好的關係吧！
如果你與一個對立的人同住或必須與之共事，你依然可以找到「明智投資」的方法。傾聽而不是爭吵；承認他們的觀點；將你的想法作為「值得考慮的建議」提出，而不是作為「鐵定事實的宣告」。如果你需要幫助，可以尋求網路資源，或找一位優秀的心理諮商師，引導你以善意且尊嚴的方式去應對他們。
在處理你生活中的人際關係時，沒有單一「正確」的投資策略。有些人對你而言值得付出長期努力，而有些人則不值得。一如既往，由你來決定將能量聚焦於何處，並因此決定你將獲得何種回報。
你或許無法用你的正能量去改變另一個人，但你卻可能影響他們。在最壞的情況下，你可以允許他們選擇屬於自己的投資與回報，同時允許自己獲得作為一個「愛自己、保持正向且明智的能量投資者」所帶來的回報！
神祝福你們！我們非常非常地愛著你們。
—— 天使
The Angels: Invest in your relationships by looking for the best
Channel: Ann Albers | Source
My dear friends, we love you so very much,
Last week, we talked about becoming more aware of how you invest your energy so you begin to see why you have certain “returns.” Today, we’re going to continue using this metaphor as it applies to how you deal with people who seem to get in the way of what you want to experience.
Suppose you want to invest your money in a company that makes a product you enjoy. You make the investment. You enjoy the returns. But then, one day, you find that the company management has changed. You don’t agree with the new management. You don’t enjoy the new direction. You can now continue to invest in something that no longer resonates with you if you feel the investment is worthwhile, or you can withdraw your funds and invest in something that feels more compatible.
Likewise, you invest your time, attention, and energy into various relationships in your life. Some of them are worth any energy invested. You may love your frustrating spouse, family member, or child so much that you are willing to change your thoughts, your actions, and your energy to invest in them more wisely! You may decide to stop focusing on their flaws and try investing in a focus on their good qualities. You might invest in a more humorous vibration. You might invest in thoughts of seeing them happy and fulfilled, coupled with thoughts that you don’t have to control the path. In any case, when a relationship matters, you can consider how you are investing your energy in it and whether or not the energy you invest in it is how you want to feel, which can be the “return.”
You all know from being on the receiving end of someone else’s concern or disapproval that you dislike those energies and will try to avoid them at all costs! Likewise, if you exhibit an investment in disapproval, worry, or concern about a loved one, they might try to avoid you. However, if someone believes in you, supports you, and you feel their approval of your good qualities, you will often want to be around them and do your best to show them your best. You’ll give them a better “return” on their positive energetic investment in you. Likewise, your dear ones will usually give you a better return on your positive energetic investment in them.
For example, suppose you have a grown child who doesn’t know what they want to do with their life. You can invest in worrying, aggressive suggestions, and disapproving ultimatums, and the return on these energetic investments in the relationship is usually a closed door and a closed mind—typically coupled with a diminished sense of self-worth and personal power. Your intentions are good. You love your child. But these negative energetic investments don’t give either of you a return that you want.
Far better to focus on the good qualities of this child. You love them. They are friendly, resourceful, talented, and, as you already suspect, when they find their inner compass and figure out a direction, they’ll be fine. Believe in them. Speak blessings over them. “I know you. When you figure out something you love, even if it’s not conventional, you’ll be a huge success. You be you. You’ll figure it out!” This positive investment will help them see themselves differently and bring a better “return.”
Or suppose you believe in them but don’t want them living at home anymore. A positive investment might be, “I love you and believe in you so much that we’re going to help you move out on this date. I’ll help you get set up in a new place for the first month, and then I know you can manage it. We’re looking at apartments next weekend unless you have a better time.” This is not an ultimatum. It is a boundary you are setting with love, positive anticipation, and faith in this soul’s ability to navigate life. It is a positive investment that will have a better return than simply keeping them at home while brewing frustration and resentment.
The more faith you have in a person, the better your investment in supporting their positive future.
Likewise, what do you do with difficult people? There may be some in your life whom you don’t really care about keeping. In that case, withdraw your energy and invest in better relationships!
If you live with an adversarial person or must work with one, you can still find ways to “invest wisely.” Listen rather than argue. Acknowledge their perspectives. Offer your ideas as thoughts to consider rather than statements of fact. If you need help, seek help online or find a good therapist who can guide you in kind ways to deal with them that honor yourself as well.
There is no one “right” investment strategy when it comes to the people in your life. Some are worth the long-term work to you, and others are not. As always, you get to decide where to focus your energy and, therefore, what returns you will receive.
You may not change another person with your positive energy, but you may just influence them. In the worst case, you can allow them whatever investments and returns they choose for themselves, while allowing yourself the returns that come from being a self-loving, primarily positive, wise energetic investor!
God Bless You! We love you so very much.
— The Angels
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